The Silent Observer
Sometimes it is good to be simply an observer. You can learn so much by simply listening, being that silent observer.
We live in a world that has little time for patience, little time to stop reflect,ponder and observe.
I’ve often sat back in a conversation with a group of people where a discussion is taking place and usually there is one that dominates the discussion, rarely drawing to take a breath and others can’t get a word in and when they do, that dominate person usually starts talking over the top to get his or her point across and failing to actually listen to what is being said.
We can read an email or letter and there might be one point that we react again and we fail to actually read the email as the rest become s a blur and we react to one pint and we become clouded to the point we actually fail to know what was sad in the email or letter.
As a race we are always quick to react and in many cases over react. We are quick to judge and condemn and then we ask questions later.We usually ask the questions when the damage as been done through our actions of condemning the person in question.
We are all experts, we believe what we read and hear on the news, we form opinions on information that is biased and the power of the media is extremely destructive and we are all to a point manipulated by the media .
We all had an opinion with the Lindy Chamberlin case where the dingo took the baby for those who remember, we all knew she was guilty, we cast the stones, and yet we were not there at all, we were not in that tent, we were thousands of miles away and yet we were all experts on the subject.( for my overseas readers this was a situation that took place in the 80’s when a dingo walked into a tent and took a baby and the mother was found guilty of killing the baby herself- then was proven many years ago, this was not possible. )
We make out judgement based on the intellectual dishonesty of the media and we call ourselves informed. Interesting that one don’t you think. We are experts and yet we have no idea about the situation at all.
At times as a race we are no different. We have egos that we don’t like being put out, we hold jealousies when at times we should embrace and be happy for others.
It never ceases to amaze me when people are quick to judge about an issue or action and those who are quick to judge and condemn, they themselves through their very actions are saying they never make mistakes .
We all do if we are honest with ourselves, we all stuff up at times and and make mistakes.
Instead of being quick to judge, cast the stones, we should be asking the question why and when we do, then we will come to a far better understanding on the subject. There are times instead over casting judgements we need to be the quiet observer.
We are very reactionary for the wrong reasons at times.
Being a quite observer has many rewards and places us in a better position to understand.
Judgement is easy, it’s quick, we feel better and can justify ourselves with the act of judgement when we have others who agree with us, then we totally feel we are justified.The old saying there is safety in numbers.
I remember some years ago of an event that took place and this left a lasting impression as it sums so much up.
The footballer Wayne Carey was caught having an affair and due to his high public profile he was hounded by the media, was judged severely, condemned and eventually he was found seeking shelter in a motel to hide from the media. They tracked him down as the Media has a habit of doing. The media was relentless in their pursuit of him.I will never forget the image they shot and posted on the from page of the paper at the time. Written on a crumpled piece of paper in his handwriting was a note that was slipped under the door for the media to see and in the end for all of Australia to see.
Its simply said “ He who is without sin, let me cast the first stone” One of Jesus most powerful statements, At the time I said out loud to myself, Yes!!!! That sum sit up does it not.
Jesus said many profound statements , life changing statements and if we tried to live that statement out, we’d have a better world.We all fall short at times and in our own arrogance we don’t see it or refuse to see our own short comings.
I’m not defending his actions at the time, but what he wrote applies to us all.We judge and condemn because we “ know” and yet were not there, we know, cause the media told us ,we know because we just do….. We judge our friends the same way sadly.We fail to ask the questions of why?
No one is perfect and being the quiet observer, the silent witness, the non spoken communicator has so many benefits.
We live on a world where we are quickly losing the ability to sit back and quietly observe.
Have you even been to the supermarket, shopping centre and just stood back or sat down and observed. You’ll be surprised what you learn about yourself and others.
When I take pictures like the kookaburra and kangaroo, I often wonder what they are thinking , what they are seeing from above. Often birds will sit there some time with there heads slightly turning this way and that, observing all that is before them.The kangaroo looking so laid back and taking and observing all that is before it.
In your own life who has made the most impact of you, the person who judges you for your actions and your short comings or the person who still embraces you as they don’t judge you, they may not understand the whys but they are willing to listen, to observe and still be there for you.So which one of these would make the most impact on you? Therefore does it not make sense to react the same way towards others.
The person I am today is the the person whom I was my early adult years and for me I’m thankful for that. I was a person who was over reactionary when I was much younger and I look back with utter sadness that I was like that .
There was a point in my life when I thought, how crazy am I and I began to take a different path in life which I’m so thankful. I’m still changing as a person as each year passes me by and for that I’m truly thankful for that. The older I get the more I see life so differently. many wouldn’t hold my point of view the way I see life today and that is fine. They say you mature in your years as you grow and there is wisdom and truth in that.
As person who has many faults and I still strive today to be a better person where ever I can.There is no question in my fallen state, the one person who inspires me beyond words is Jesus. That may ruffle a few feathers but before you condemn me,judge me, put me down I ask you to actually read his words, not what you think he said, but his words and I cannot fine anything that he said that was destructive for us. Yes I’m fallen as a person but my faith in God has never been in question, and that doesn’t make me better than anyone else, far from it. I am a person who has never seen life as black and white and never will. Life is very complicated at times to be seen as black and white .
There are others whom have faith in God who do see life as black and white, but for Pete, he never has and that’s another story.
There are things in our lives that take place and can shape us for the better or for the worse depending how we react to it and how we view it.
The kookaburra sits there perched, observing the world pass it by for that moment in time.
There is much more I could say in regards to being the silent observer but I don;t want to make you fall asleep do I ? haha
To observer is to listen, to observe is a conversation with out words, to observe is to understand.
Unconditional love is a hard thing to put in practice and the best example outside Jesus and he is the supreme example of that in my opinion that I can give to you what unconditional love is , but outside of him and my two wonderful kids, the next best thing is found in my dog Shadow. You might laugh at that, it may surprise you, you may think I’ve lost it but his love for me is the best example that I have( outside of Jesus). Shadow is a dog I agree but there are many lessons that we can learn from our 4 legged friends.
There are times when I have to get cross with him but he never leaves my side.
Shadow is a my golden retriever ( has his own FB page haha) and he is getting on in years and he has been my companion and having been through a divorce some years ago, he has been such good company and when you do go through a divorce, your friends just drop off and you are left with very little-that’s another story-if it was not for Shadow, during those years I would have been a very lonely person.
There are things that he does which cause me a lot of work and he knows when he has done wrong. He walks to me ever so slowly, step by step and I stand looking at him, then I get down to his level, his tail slowly starts to wag and I say to him” Come here Shadow, I give him a hug and say” Shadow you are getting to old for taking yourself for 5 hours walks and coming back full of mud” we sit outside, he is happy that i accept him as he is, although I do hate it when I have to wash in “ again” haha but we can learn a lot from our 4 legged friends. I do get side tracked when writing, I’m not a writer at all, what I write just is what I’m thinking at the time. So please understand, I am not a writer.
When it is all said and done , Im not interested in what a person says but rather what they do.
The is more power in the act of forgiving than there is in the act of resentment.
Observe like the kookaburra and kangaroo and see what transpires in your life.Pete:)